Expectations and Disappointments ...Why a Fraternity?

I decided that the things that i talked to Carolyn about i should also ask Vin about. I met with Vin on Monday in Ocean City and we went to an arcade. We talked about his week which was full as usual. Hes been really busy with the fraternity and everything. He had a fundraiser on thursday. On friday he went to a party at the elks lodge where he was the DD again. Saturday he said he sat around all day because he needs his rest and relazation because he is busy all the time and never gets enough rest. Sunday he did a lot of homwork and then went to a party at school.

We got to talk about his role models in life very briefly and also about his transition to college. Vin says his role model is defenitely his dad. He says that his dad is "the man. That was as much detail i could get out of him as to why. Everytime i asked why he is the man he replied with "because he is" and hes my dad thats why. so i let it go. Vins transition to college he says was fairly easy. He says that his clases were actually easier and the only thing he was worried aboout when coming to college was getting a fresh start. He didnt want to make a bad first impression and he also has a hard time meeting people. Other than that nothing bothered him. He chose Stockton because it is close enough to home that he can drive back if he needs anything and a lot of his friends are back at home. Its also far enough away for him to stay on campus and get to know ppl pretty well and have a good time. His fears came true for a week or so, but then he met some "cool" people and has been hanging out with them ever since then. He was fine after a week or two. Some of his expectations about college were big parties and schoolwork to be much different and he was a little bit worried about being in class longer. His disapointment was the lack of big parties and the lack of free time where he has nothing to do for 3 or 4 hours at a time. He was also expecting to make more friends than he actually did when he got here, but he says "that's ok all u need are a few good ones". Now, he loves college, hes having the time of his life, classes are going well, hes pledging a frat, meeting a lot of new people, things are going pretty good right now for him. When he began to talk about how he was joining a frat i asked him how he decided which frat and why.

When he came to stockton he talked to a few people in greek life and they all told him that it was the best decision they ever made, and he wanted to make some friends. he said that it just looked like a good time and a good thing to get involved with. How he chose the fraternity was because he knew the president of the frat and also his first semester here, he had a few of the brothers in one of his classes. He spoke with them about it and after talking to them he was very interested in pledging. The one he joined also seemed pretty laid back and nice and there was noone that he met from it that looked like they would give him a hard time. And thats how he got INVOLVED.